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Sibling Rivalry — Соперничество братьев и сестер

Have you got a brother or a sister? I have a younger brother and I think it’s wonderful! I have a person who is very close to me and who will always help and support me in difficult situations.
However, when children are young, there may occur jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters. It is a concern of almost all parents having two or more kids. The problem usually starts when the second child is born.
Conflicts between brothers and sisters may be caused by the following reasons:
Children want to show that they are separate from their siblings. Fearing that a brother or a sister is better at anything, they try to find out their own talents, activities and interests.
Sometimes children think that mum or dad loves their sibling more, they feel that another child gets more attention.
Children can’t share a room, their parents, toys, etc.
There are three main skills that parents should teach their children in order they

could get along well together. They are communication, respect and negotiation.
Communication. It means that children should learn to listen attentively to each other. Use family meetings to talk about things that concern everyone. At such meetings nobody should shout and everyone should have a chance to express his or her opinion.
Respect. Try to explain to your children that if they want people to treat them nicely, they have to treat them nicely, too. People who treat each other with respect, get along together much better than those who are rude, loud and selfish. Parents can also give examples of their own life so that children could understand better the necessity of being respectful.
Negotiation. Your child should keep in mind that whether he is younger or older, taller or shorter than other children, it does not give him any more rights than the others in the family have. It demands a lot of time and effort to teach the child the skill of negotiating, but it’s a must for every parent. You should be fair with your children and try to find a solution which will satisfy each of them.
Parents
should have a certain power in the family. However, this power can be reached only through trusting. If your children don’t trust you, it’s impossible to achieve anything but fear and contempt.
Finally, it’s necessary to say that children shouldn’t be compared to one another at all. They are individuals and are waiting for the appropriate attitude. Bringing up children is a huge responsibility, but don’t be afraid of it. Your heart will prompt you what to do.
To have a brother or a sister means to be never alone. From time to time children get sick of one another, but it is quite natural. The main thing is they’ll have a close person throughout their life.

Соперничество братьев и сестер

У вас есть сестра или брат? У меня есть младший брат, и я думаю, что это замечательно: у меня есть человек, который всегда поможет мне в любой трудной ситуации.
Однако довольно часто между братьями и сестрами возникают ревность и соперничество, что может привести даже к дракам. Это заботит почти всех родителей, имеющих нескольких детей. Проблема обычно возникает после рождения второго малыша.
Конфликты между братьями и сестрами, как правило, возникают вследствие следующих причин:
— Все дети пытаются проявить свою индивидуальность. Из-за страха, что брат или сестра превзойдут их в чем-либо, они стараются найти у себя скрытые таланты, найти для себя определенные занятия и интересы.
— Иногда ребенок считает, что отец или мать любят его брата или сестру больше, уделяют им большее внимание.
— Дети не могут поделить комнаты, игрушки и т. п.
Для того чтобы они научились мирно проводить время вместе, родители должны научить их трем основным вещам: общению, уважению и компромиссам.
Общение. Дети должны научиться внимательно слушать друг друга. Этому можно посвящать семейные собрания, где будут обсуждаться вопросы, касающиеся каждого члена семьи. На таких собраниях никто не должен кричать и у всех должен быть шанс высказать свое мнение.
Уважение. Родителям нужно постараться объяснить своим детям, что если они хотят хорошего отношения к себе, то нужно проявлять такое же отношение к другим людям. Те, кто уважает друг друга, ладят с людьми гораздо легче, чем те, кто груб, резок и эгоистичен. Родители могут привести примеры из собственной жизни, чтобы дети лучше поняли, почему необходимо уважительно относиться к другим людям.
Компромиссы. Ваш ребенок должен четко уяснить, что если он старше или моложе, выше или ниже ростом, чем другие дети, — это не дает ему никаких преимуществ перед другими членами семьи. На то, чтобы научить ребенка осознать это, требуется большое количество времени и сил, но это важно для всех родителей. Необходимо быть справедливыми по отношению к детям, улаживая семейные конфликты, и постараться найти такое решение, которое удовлетворит каждого ребенка.
Родители должны обладать определенной властью в семье. Но эта власть может быть обретена только через доверие детей к ним. Если ваш ребенок не доверяет вам, от него не удастся получить ничего, кроме страха и презрения.
Подводя итоги, надо сказать, что детей нельзя сравнивать друг с другом. Каждый из них уникален и ждет соответствующего к себе отношения. Воспитание детей — огромная ответственность, но ее не стоит бояться. Ваше сердце всегда подскажет, что делать.
Иметь брата или сестру — значит никогда не быть в одиночестве. Время от времени дети конфликтуют друг с другом, но это абсолютно нормально. Главное, что на протяжении всей жизни у них будет близкий человек.

Questions:

1. Have you got a sibling?
2. Have you experienced a sibling rivalry?
3. How can parents improve the relationships between brothers and sisters?
4. Can you think of some other reasons of sibling rivalry?
5. Why is it wonderful to have a sister or a brother?

Vocabulary:

Sibling — родной брат, родная сестра
sibling rivalry — соперничество братьев и сестер
close — близкий
to support — поддерживать
to occur — возникать
jealousy — зависть, ревность
competition — соперничество
concern — забота, проблема
almost — почти
to cause — вызывать, являться причиной
skill — навык
to get along — уживаться, ладить
communication — общение
respect — уважение
negotiation — компромиссы
to concern — касаться
opinion — мнение
rude — грубый
loud — крикливый
selfish — эгоистичный
to keep in mind — осознавать, понимать
effort — усилие
to satisfy — удовлетворять
trusting — доверие
appropriate — должный, подходящий
attitude — отношение
huge — огромный
responsibility — ответственность
to prompt — подсказывать
to mean — значить
to get sick of — надоедать
throughout — на протяжении, в течение

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